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April 05, 2005
Loser Mom strikes again
I just got back home from bringing Eldest into school. I was puttering around in the kitchen, cleaning off the table because I have a mom coming over in 30 minutes to register her daughter for Girl Scouts. The phone rings.
Kate: Hello
Eldest: Hi Mom
::in my head:: Oh God, what did I forget?
K: Hi honey. Did I forget something?
M: It's Grandparents Day today.
::in my head:: CRAP CRAP It's TODAY?
K: It's TODAY?
M: Yes
K: Honey, I'm sorry. I totally forgot about it. I forgot to tell Grandpa or Grammy to come in.
M: Well, Mrs. * (teacher) said that you can come in instead.
K: ::in my head:: frantically calculating my schedule and knowing this woman will be here in 25 minutes
K: OK. What time could I come in?
M: What time? ::I hear talking in the background::
M: 830-930
K: ::in my head:: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
K: Honey, I've got someone coming over in a little while. I am not going to make it in. I'm sorry.
M: ::silence::
K: Honey?
M: ::sniffling::
K: ::heart breaking::
K: Honey, don't cry.
M: ::in a most tiny voice:: I'm not
::scuffling noise::
Her teacher got on the phone once she saw Eldest getting upset. She explained to me that I could come in if I wanted and that only 5-6 grandparents were even attending. I explained that I was unable to come in and she said not to worry about it. She told Eldest that I was going to be going on the class trip and I would also be coming in the classroom later that week to help out. She put Eldest back on the phone and we said our goodbyes.
God - I feel like such a putz.
Posted by Cate at April 5, 2005 08:26 AM
Comments
You know the problem with being one of the really good moms is that when you do screw up it just upsets the kiddos more. But still...she'll appreciate once she gets older that you were still one of the really good moms that screwed up occasionally but was almost always able to be there.
Posted by: daisy at April 5, 2005 08:55 AM
I so agree with Daisy. I couldn't have said it better.
Posted by: Susan at April 5, 2005 09:30 AM
{{{{Katie}}}}
Posted by: shelley at April 5, 2005 10:20 AM
found your blog via riss's tequila shots.
v. fun read! i can even picture the scenarios you described. will stop by again.
Posted by: kat at April 5, 2005 10:29 AM
(((Kate))) it happens. We all forget things from time to time. It's ok. Don't beat yourself up over it. You do so much for your girls already. I honestly don't know how you do it all.
Posted by: kat at April 5, 2005 10:31 AM
{{hugs}}
Honey, it does happen. You are there for your girls every day. They know that. It's okay.
I was (would you believe) on the phone one time and completely forgot I was scheduled to have lunch with my older daughter at school one day. Fifteen minutes after I was suppose to be there, I finally remembered. She was waiting outside the lunch room in tears.
It happens. Sweet One and I actually are better for it. If there is something really important to her, she lets me know and reminds me.
She understands life is complicated. Like Kat, you do so much, I honestly don't know how you do it ALL.
{{more hugs}}
Posted by: Christina at April 5, 2005 01:10 PM
Oh puhleeze! If you're a putz, then what am I!?!
**raised eyebrow**
NEVERMIND! It happens to the best of us, Kate. Buy the kids an ice cream and call it even ;o)
Posted by: Lizzie at April 5, 2005 03:01 PM
You, like myself, like all mothers, will forever dwell on the 20 important things we "forgot" or screwed up on ... and forget the 20 million times we did amazing things and made huge sacrifices, and said the perfect words, and made them laugh, and .... etc. (that's why there is therapy for moms!)
Posted by: Nancy at April 5, 2005 10:42 PM
I have SO completely been there, and I SO completely feel your pain. (I feel a post in my own journal coming on...) My mother never went to ANY of my school functions, or special days like this one, and I SWORE I wouldn't do that to my own kids. Then something happens at work... you know how it is. Life isn't perfect. But we still love them with all our hearts, and we tell them that every waking moment of the day, and somehow that makes it better.
Posted by: Susan at April 6, 2005 04:08 PM
