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January 28, 2003
Regarding my post from last
Regarding my post from last night and the comments left -
I can't go in the class when the "facilitators" are there but I know when the class will be given in her classroom. The meeting I attended last night was the parents version of the lesson for the kids. I think she'd do fine with it - I am more or less dealing with my own fears and paranoia. I don't want her afraid that everyone is going to touch her in a "bad" way, that when Dad hugs her, it's ok. I have read about cases where children are somewhat manipulated (brainwashed perhaps?)by well meaning facilitators or doctors. Anyone remember the <a href="http://www.ipt-forensics.com/journal/volume7/j7_2_1.htm">McMartin case </a> in California? Yahoo has a few interesting links <a href="http://dir.yahoo.com/Government/Law/Cases/McMartin_Preschool_Trial/"target=_blank>here</a> regarding the case.
I am going to let M take this class. P and I will strongly reinforce the main concerns and teach her to be safe and comfortable with herself. If anything or anyone makes her uncomfortable, threatens her or, God forbid, hurts her, she will know that she can come to us - no matter WHO it is - and we will help her without being angry. There is a lot of research and statistics that show children that are too scared to tell their parents that some form of abuse has taken place, that is is their fault. :sad: How awful.
There was a case in my area last year of a girl who was sexually assaulted. Her father found out who it was, drove to his house and shot him. The father then turned the gun upon himself. Can you imagine what this poor girl has to live with the rest of her life? Knowing that her own father <i>killed</i> himself over <i>her</i> assault? It breaks my heart.
Posted by Cate at January 28, 2003 01:59 PM
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It's great to let children know that they can always come to you! I also tell my girls that even if someone tells them they'll kill us (mom and dad) that they can still tell me. That the person who is hurting them is telling them that to scare them. The more informed our children are, the safer they will be! :heartbeat:
Posted by: karri at January 28, 2003 02:39 PM
I think it sounds like you're really prepared to help Moira with this class and everything will go wonderfully. You guys sound like great parents.
Posted by: Andrea at January 28, 2003 09:14 PM
Some of this is total overkill. I can't imagine having to attend a class like that when I younger. I believe that it causes more anxiety and fear in children than it eases.
I don't know. You can have a talk with children about appropriate contact with adults and not have it be a class.
This just boggles my mind.
Kate, you and Paul are good parents. I think that your children know what's okay and what's not.
I have to wonder, if you don't let your child attend this class, are you immediately placed under suspicion?
This scares me.
Posted by: Da Goddess at January 28, 2003 11:45 PM
I'm sure it will all work out - and with you and Paul reinforcing that she can always come to you about anything is good. I'm sure she already knows that anyway.
There are so many stories like that, and they all break my heart. So sad!!
Anyway - I hope you have a good day!! :hug:
Posted by: Karen at January 29, 2003 07:40 AM
